I am the father of two wonderful, smart, beautiful, lively, and kind daughters. They are my everything, my life. As a father himself, our Heavenly Father understands what it’s like to parent us. He is our ultimate example, our ultimate authority, and He understands what the heart of a father is like and why it’s so essential in the lives of our children.
Mothers and fathers are equally important. After all, God created men and women (see Genesis 1:26) and created them both in God’s image. We are equal. As parents, it’s the same way. Mothers are so very needed because they bring so much nurture, comfort, and care to their children. Fathers are very needed because they bring direction, leadership, and identity to their children.
Sons need something special from their mothers (and yes, from their fathers too), and daughters need something special from their fathers (and yes, from their mothers too). Be The Dad She Needs You To Be is a powerful book written by Dr. Kevin Leman. I read this book two years ago, and it is a wonderful book written by a man who has four daughters.
This book was powerful and explained the importance of a man’s role as the father of girls, and how that relationship is so sacred and wonderful.
You see, a daughter needs a dad to be the standard against which she will judge all men. A good father is an example of this: a father who gives them attention, has a relationship with them, teaches them new things, encourages them to try new foods, expands their horizon by taking them on adventures, swimming, hiking, pays attention to her interests, raises her in the Word of God, and supports her with every fiber of his being. Daughters also need to know you love them (both deep inside, and verbally). I make sure to always tell my daughters that I love them, and I also show them I love them by my actions.
It melts my heart hearing my daughters say to me, “This is the best day of this whole week!” when we’re together, playing outside and rolling around in the leaves. Seeing their joy, their smiles, and their laughter brings joy to me and to my life. Observing how kind and gentle they are, how much joy they have, and how content they are is so freeing to me. Playing dolls with them, doing puzzles, teaching them new games, running around, raising them up- it’s all pure joy.
Madonna King put it this way, “A good father-daughter relationship can empower daughters to believe in themselves… It can bestow upon a girl a sense of belonging, a self-efficacy, and a resilience for life.” So powerful!
It’s a good thing for a father to raise his daughter up right. After all, as fathers, we are the head of the home, and our daughters will see us leading well, and that’s something they can look up to and respect.
A father’s role is not to teach his daughter how to be a woman; his role is to teach his daughter how a woman should be treated. When I teach them this, they realize how well they are treated not only by me, but how they should be treated by their future husbands.
I thank the Lord that God is entrusting men out there to raise up strong daughters in the day and age we are living in. I thank God that He chose me as a father for that task, for there is nothing greater. My daughters, Ingrid and Liesel, are worth it. They are priceless.